OT: Jake Heaps' unexpected journey
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Everyone likes to rip on him, and while absolutely despise all the husky talk, I really do hope he succeeds. The guy won't give up, and considering all the crazy things going on with his parents I really admire his passion to keep trying. To keep going, and to find a way.
Early success in sports, whether at the your level or high school, doesn't typically last beyond high school- is so true. Why? Because the athlete is told how great he or she is, and once that playing field levels out, he or she doesn't know how to deal with failure or not being the star. And many times they fold mentally.
I never understood the extent of the parent issue. While not exactly Marinovich territory it was pretty bad for him and apparently he no longer has contact with either parent.
I hope he finds a way to stick as well. He has definitely paid some dues.
This is an amazing story. He will be cannon fodder for the Jets' defensive line for a month, get cut, cash his 'thanks for showing up' check and move out of the in-laws basement. Just horrifying.
These helicopter parents seem to do more harm than good. Can anyone cite any cases where they were actually beneficial to their son's or daughter's athletic success? I found Heap's slide from #1 HS QB in the nation to a steady downward spiral to be amusing but, knowing more now, I just find it sad. Hopefully, he will find some success in life somehow if not athletically.
He will never be an NFL OB,his endeavors are a exercise if futility. If he cannot start in college ,how is he going to make an NFL team? One hopes that he uses his money wisely as he will soon be out on his own.This is the case for many would be NFL OB;s who just do not have the right stuff.
Actually, in some ways this is just as bad or perhaps worse than Marinovich. You are in high stress territory when your parents move to your college area then divorce within a year. Sounds like the kid had become their only common point. Add in the unique stresses of being at BYU, deciding to marry (probably not something his parents were wild about at that point, and who knows what her parents thought) and the expected pressure from a D 1 staff that has to "just win, baby"....and a sincere Mormon kid's reaction would almost certainly include some sort of questions regarding how he could fix the situation. Of course, some aspects of all that were simply not fixable, but it puts some mental mistakes in his second year and his transfer into a much clearer light. As for how good he actually is, once he is playing against others at the top level...that goes back to the argument that the recruiting stars system is only a predictor in the most general way, and certainly no guarantee.
Jake Heaps is going to end up just fine. Work ethic and perseverance were instilled in Jake since he was a young boy, have served him well and will continue to serve him well as he matures. He has his loving parents to thank for that.
He might end up just fine or he might not (whatever "just fine" means). No one is asserting that he's headed off a cliff.
His parents gave him a tremendous opportunity. The writer made it sound as if he is ungrateful.
He has his parents and the family sacrifices they made to thank for providing the opportunity for him to fulfill his dream.
He has his parents and the family sacrifices they made to thank for providing the opportunity for him to fulfill his dream.
The writer made it sound as though the parents wanted him to provide them opportunities, and he didn't. Best of luck to all going forward.
Wulffui's post made me wonder. How many of these helicopter parents have their child's wellbeing as their primary motive and how many are just using the child as a surrogate for their own desires and ambitions?
On another note, it is baffling to me that any NFL team would expect an athlete who failed in college to be able to succeed on a higher level. Some people just keep waiting for the perceived potential to finally emerge despite previous evidence that it will never do so.
On another note, it is baffling to me that any NFL team would expect an athlete who failed in college to be able to succeed on a higher level. Some people just keep waiting for the perceived potential to finally emerge despite previous evidence that it will never do so.
Interesting. Maybe you missed the part where his wife said the parents saw him as a "three and out", or where the parents talk about the activities they deprived him of under the pretense of "being the best QB". Or the mom calling Vandy to try and solicit scholarship offers. Or this:
"His parents moved to Utah soon after he had started at BYU — “I wasn’t particularly stoked about it,” Jake says — but the relationship splintered after his freshman season.
Kelly and Steve had been his biggest supporters, and he believes their intentions were based in love. But he had to set boundaries.
They wanted to form a parent booster club at BYU. They started a football camp in Utah under Jake’s name. His mom sometimes blogged from practices.
By the end of his freshman year, he no longer spoke with his parents."
You really didn't see it... at all?
Yes, I read where Jake thought he was 3 and out. I saw where he believes he has earned everything and I see where his relationship was strained for a short time after he left BYU... and that his relationship, like ALL relationships... Is a work in process.
Feh, I guess it's possible to selectively read an article. At some point, kids need to take responsibility for their actions. At some point, parents need to let them. He should have done it before he made his college choice. Nonetheless, hopefully both parties have learned.
Parents need to let their kids make choices. My son ,to my chagrin,decided to go to college 2000 miles away It sucked but he is maturing into his own man. That is what ,i feel,is what every parent should want.The separation has made us closer in many ways despite the geographical distance and we celebrate his summers with us..
Matt Cassel never started at QB in 4 years at USC. But, he was drafted and ended up being franchised by the Patriots, signed a huge contract with the Chiefs, played in a Pro Bowl, and is going into his 11th season in the NFL.
Sure, he's the only guy to ever do it, but it could happen.
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