Wife’s cousin lost his wife this summer after 7 years of dealing with breast CA recurrence. At the end it was many weeks dealing with her in denial, no sleep, bathing, diaper changes and all that entails, and dealing with unhelpful hospice trying to limit her pain meds “because she might became addicted” - left him utterly exhausted and numb. Doing surprisingly well now but he did have a 7-year goodbye.Tough duty, for sure. I was there at the time of death for father-in-law, Mom, Dad, and my wife. Yeah, here come the tears again just thinking about them and going through that experience. For those that haven't been through that, consider yourself lucky, but it comes down to bucking up and doing what you have to do for those you love. But let me tell you that seeing your loved one being taken away on a gurney from the home they loved for the very last time will really tear you up.
LC, I have a suggestion for you to eliminate the possibility of injury or death to the unlucky semi driver. Find a rural high speed train crossing where you can conveniently have "car trouble" right on the track. Those mile long freight trains win every time.
Getting older and facing mortality can be brutal and with limits on resources available ( mainly caregivers) and soaring costs it’s just going to get rougher. God help anyone ( probably most of us) that ends up in a facility - they are mostly designed to bleed all of your finances dry while providing the minimum amount of care possible.