I guess I'm OK with Claeys, for now. But I'm watching. To forward the rape culture question and fault and what is rape and all that crap...
Rape is rape. When a woman says no, it means the deed is done. If a dude is literally 1 second from finishing and a girl says "no" or "stop", he needs to go take a cold shower. Right hand jack is in your future. Depending on the situation, I'd be a pretty ticked dude but hey... it is what it is.
But this discussion is heading towards responsibility. Who's responsible in this specific situation. Who is to be believed. Certainly the guys bear a massive portion of responsibility. Just at face value, we are trying to split a hair regarding a situation that is not healthy for either man or woman to be involved in. So we all need to recognize that the woman intentionally, consensually and willingly put herself in that situation of multiple men, at a MASSIVE party. She's just as disgusting as the men, in my opinion. Even if it encounter went as she wanted it.
But here's my thing about the specific "incident". that really throws a wrench in it for me, regarding how much responsibility the girl should bear and her believability. Either in her report or her initial conversations (don't remember), the girl said she wasn't sure if she was raped or not... First of all, lets clarify that she wasn't "plastered". In the video taken during the "incident", all reports say she was coherent and in good mental state. Even "enjoying" the encounter (with multiple guys AND a camera that she knew was being used to record the event) at the time. So she wasn't passed out, no one was taking advantage of her at that time. She may have had a drink or two but not DRUNK, drunk. So the "not sure" part is not due to her being too drunk. In this EXTREME situation (which I would agree probably happens more than I want to know... our world is so... sick) does the woman bear ANY fault in putting herself in such a situation where she doesn't even know who is involved? And THEN... if she knew she was going to be involved is such a... crazy event, even a few drinks probably weren't a good choice. Is she responsible for any of that? I don't know. But at some point, as our society allows acceptable behavior to be pushed and pushed, I do start to question personal responsibility.
Aside from the rape culture, our society works very hard at not taking responsibility for our own actions. The law-suits that make all the headlines (McD's hot coffee as an example) are just insane. And to use another example... if a woman wears a short skirt and acts provocatively, it doesn't mean she wants it, deserves to be raped or anything like that. But there has to be a line somewhere regarding a woman taking some responsibility, as much as the men. I think this particular situation is so extreme, that it is very, very close to that line. She placed herself into a situation that she did not control, that made it hard for her to know whom she was having sex with... And that is SOLELY the men's fault? Hard questions...